Anoushka Shankar Opens Up About Personal Boundaries and Trauma
A Personal Encounter Sparks Reflection
Renowned musician Anoushka Shankar recently took to social media to share a poignant reflection following an unsettling experience with a fan that forced her to confront lingering trauma and the intricacies of personal boundaries.
In a heartfelt post accompanied by a serious portrait, the celebrated sitarist and composer recounted an incident during a meet-and-greet after a performance, where a fan unexpectedly lifted her without waiting for her consent. "A man picked me up last weekend. I mean, physically lifted me. He asked if he could, but didn’t wait for an answer before I found myself suspended in the air, clasped in a bear hug by a stranger, feet dangling," Shankar shared.
She elaborated that the encounter unfolded rapidly while she was interacting with fans post-show, prompting her to respond politely despite feeling uncomfortable. "I had been meeting a few fans after a show and it all happened so fast. I laughed awkwardly and asked to be let down, I signed his poster, I smiled and waved," she recounted.
Initially, Shankar downplayed the incident when discussing it with others, thinking the fan had no malicious intent and was merely overly excited. However, she later recognized that the experience had a more profound impact on her than she initially realized.
"Days later, the reality has sunk in. Once again, my history of abuse meant I didn’t know how to respond appropriately to someone crossing my boundaries in real time. I centered his hypothetical intent over my lived experience of discomfort," she expressed.
The Grammy-nominated artist also reflected on the ongoing and complex nature of trauma recovery, acknowledging the emotional turmoil that resurfaced after the incident. "When this happens, feelings of shame, dismay, and frustration can arise. How can I still be grappling with these never-ending nuances? I have come so far in this process of healing yet a single moment can show me further wounds still enclosed within," she wrote, describing the experience as "Another layer of childhood’s memories resurfacing and shedding."
Shankar concluded her post with a message of solidarity for others facing similar emotional challenges, urging compassion and patience in the healing journey. "I share this to say: if, like me, you hold these experiences within yourself, please go gently. (Yes, I find it easier to tell others this than myself). The path of healing curves, and is never linear. If you lost your voice again for a moment, remember you can find it, always, within," she advised.
She further remarked, "The gulf between our bodies, our emotions, and how our minds are able to read them is narrowing with every moment that separates us from our past." The post resonated widely, garnering support from fans, fellow musicians, and artists, many of whom commended Shankar for openly discussing the delayed emotional repercussions of boundary violations and trauma.
Recognized as one of the leading contemporary sitar players, Shankar is celebrated for her ability to fuse Indian classical music with global and experimental sounds. Although she has largely steered clear of mainstream Bollywood playback music, her cinematic contributions include composing the score for the silent film Shiraz and co-composing music for A Suitable Boy.